Do not double children's hurt
 When a family breaks up, adults sometimes feel sad, sometimes..to their heart fullest content. However, to children, it is a big shock, an obsession due to lack of love. While many parents try to compensate for your children, many people continue to double children's hurt by wrong behaviors.
1. Do not exchange directly with your children about preparing divorces.This thing can make children imagine many terrible things happened in relationship between fathers and mothers rather than their divorces.
2. Do not exchange or encourage children that the reason of their break-ups does not relate to children
3. Debate all the time in front of your children. Children will be haunted about what their parents try many ways to shift on to each other. This thing leads to the fact that children become difficult to teach, sorrowful, or furious.
4. Look down on the dignity of the other when one is absent. For example, "Your father is a rude and brute man" and "Your mother is like a fool". The above unprincipled statements will make children hurt deeply.
5. Use children as their means to achieve their own targets such as keeping track of husbands or wives.
6. Stimulate children to support for their sides, or seed into their heads negative thoughts about their fathers or mothers such as "I love your father so much but he does not pay attention to me."or "I want to keep this house for you later, but your mother insists on selling it".
7. "Induce" children in case they live with the others or when fathers or mothers come to visit by sending messages "I bought a nice present for you. Come to get it" or "Can you wait until I come to visit you, but I just go for picnic."
8. Obstruct deliberately when "enemy" comes to visit children or one has to take children along to other's house by pretending many reasons as an excuse such as studying at that time, broken car, being busy to take them along to other's house.
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