 Do you indulge children too much?
Although their children have disobedient expressions, hardly any mothers think that they are over-indulging theirs. The below test will tell you if you are strict enough to children or not.
Answer the following questions:
- In a typical day, do you feel tired and have to make concessions or require the children to obey some limits?
- Do you let the child interrupt adult’s stories?
- Do you have to buy toys to prevent the child from moaning or to please him, though there are already a lot of toys in your house?
- Don’t you want to take the children to super market because he will make you embarrassed?
If you answer “yes” for more than two questions, you are surely indulging the children.
Psychologists report that, all children in the walking age (from 1 to 3 years old) often interrupt, cry endlessly and are irascible. That is the manner the child wants to show his independence. It is the matter of importance how parents react to those actions. Your children are not naughty when they moan but they are clearly not docile when they make request by this way. If moaning, grumbling and misbehaving help them to have what they want, the children will always repeat continuously these behaviors. According to specialists of children development, spoilt children didn't’t use to meet unwanted things when they are young.
Correcting bad habits
Learning to walk is a relatively advantageous time to change the situation. Firstly, it is needed to establish fixed bounds; the child having clear bounds will feel safe and have less impertinent behavior.
Principles are not really the matter, what important is that you can apply those principles consistently or not. With children at the age of learning to walk, it’s best to have only 3 or 4 rules such as “Do not bite”, “Do not interrupt adult’s talk” and “Pick up your toys”.
If the child is angry because you don’t do things in his way, you should ignore him until he stops. When your child knows that he cannot draw expected attention, he won’t repeat it. You can shift his attention by making him concentrate on other things like toys.
Seeing the child angry or crying is very hard for you, but this is a chance for you to put out newly-started had habits. Be firm and speak clearly “I love you and I’m sorry for making you angry but I won’t make concession to you and you must not bite or throw toys away when you are not satisfied” You should also show that you understand the child’s emotion, tell him “I understand that stopping playing is really hard for you but it’s the time now we must go home”. Therefore, he will be more cooperative.
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