Eight ways to make children studious
 Appraising is one way to encourage, yet children are not silly enough to always believe in such sayings: "Good" or "well-done". If you say so day by day when looking at their notebooks, they will understand that you don't really care for their study.
How to make them studious without you proving to push and make them cry?
Try the 8 below ways:
Accept his real ability
If you put much force on the objective that you child must become the best student in the class, then you are over-dreaming. All children develop in different paces. Your frequently comparing your child's ability with other children only makes him nervous. If he can not meet his parents' expectation, he is a loser.
In the opposite situation, if your child shows his early talent in painting or sport, make every opportunity available for him to develop this ability. But remember not to force but encourage much. You cannot force any child to run when he doesn't know how to walk, but if he wants to run, try your uttermost to help him.
Create opportunities for him
One of the best and most effective ways to help the child promote his aptitude is let him do what he likes. If he has the right to choose, he will try better to realize what he has decided to follow. Whatsoever, he does need the support from parents.
Although the child has intended to go to a music show this Saturday, if you don't take him there, he cannot go.
Normally, a child likes many things so parents must find solutions to narrow them, helping him to discover the area he is interested in most. With too special children, if you don't project them to their outstanding abilities, they will gradually lose focus on their gifts and just like watching television only or playing with friends.
Check if there's anything
This may sound easy and obvious, but is there any time you ask your child why he doesn't want to go camping, participating in life guide, or why he hasn't done homework yet.? There are a lot of reasons: perhaps he is bullied at school, or maybe he doesn't like the teacher in charge or he is fed up with math so he hasn't done homework.
A suitable environment is also an important factor. Some children can only concentrate in absolutely quite rooms while others prefer studying on animated playgrounds. If your son tells you that he doesn't want to study alone in his private room, arrange for him a place in the kitchen. If he becomes studious, without others having to remind him, there's surely some good reason.
Talk to him about your work
It's unavoidable that you feel tired after a hard day, however, spend some time to talk to your child about both happy and unhappy things. Speak to him about your thoughts and he will think independently, perhaps he will tell himself that if he studies hard he will be as successful as his mother. If you are doing a dull job, and you cannot find a beautiful word to appraise, you should tell him the truth: what is the situation like for a person without any certifications, surely he won't find a good job. Sometimes he will encourage himself to study hard because he wants his life to be better than his parents'.
Praise children
Praising is one way to encourage children but be moderate because children are not silly enough to always believe in such sentences: "Good work" or "Very well". If everyday he brings you exercises he's done at school and listens to these same words, they'll understand that you don't actually care for their study.
So what can you say? Simple, but specific. For example, "I really like this idea in your literature exercise, it is very deep and impressive" or "You play the song "my village school" very well". He will see that you really care for his activities and he will try better next time.
Giving children awards
Some parents normally promise to award their child a bike if he performs well in the examination, and of course gets nothing if fails. That treatment isn't really a good method since it only makes the child nervous before the examination; afraid that his failure will not be rewarded. And if he fails in fact, he will fall into a very depressed state. Theoretically, good result is already an award for him but actually, he will achieve better outcome if he has rewards to encourage. Instead of promising to give him a big gift, a small present is enough to encourage him. The awards will encourage him to try harder and also doesn't make him regretful if he loses the opportunity to win that award.
From time to time, let your child do what he likes
Children often progress very quickly if they are cared and encouraged by parents. However, they need time to reach that advance. Such shouts as: "What are you doing? Why don't you study at all?" will hurt the children.
Every one needs time to rest, listen to music or even sit down staring at the space in front. And when the power is recovered, we will feel refreshed, powerful and willing to cope with the immediate challenges.
Explain to the child why you desire him to study well
What happens if you don't want your child to give up piano class because you are sure he has talent in music, especially playing the piano? What have you to do?
Don't shout at him because just after a while, he will not mind you are blaming. Speak and explain to him why you suppose he should continue learning piano and the conflict between you will be solved. If he refuses to listen <obey>, perhaps later he will turn the desire to vocal music and likes to take part in some trio or .Whether agrees or not, all he learned before are safely preserved in his "experience bank" and he will never forgets them.
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