Help your son to become true man
Making son become a man is the task of father. The development of personality of man appears very early. The first, he looks at his father and thinks "I want to be a man like him".
The main task of a father set up a strong spirit to his son. So, don't forget you must not kiss and cuddle your son so much.
Let's try to leave smoking and drinking. If the boy never sees his father drunk, he will be less interested in drinking when he grows up. You need to have a straight talk about your mistake in sometime. Teach him know that every word he speaks out is a tie. A boy will learn this from his father.
Never criticize his fault but just censure the less effort of him. Your son often loves grandparents and he will observe the way you treat to your parents to learn. Remember that!
A boy also has a need to hover about his dad to know what a man often do. You should enjoy this happiness because it will not longer. Let's lead him learn to knot the tie, polish shoes, the way to use razor safely and use tissue stop blood as if scratch skin (your son will know how to keep his clothes clean and be discolored). Guide him how to keep chopstick, use knife and fork is necessary.
If there's a game that he likes play with you in long time, you should willing to let him be satisfied, even when you are utterly exhausted. Patient in treating and taking care your son from his early age you will step-by-step teach him become a good person.
May he like to play with dolls, it's no problem. You should accept for temporary. When you have free time, you take him to the park and play wheel or high-speed glider with him (his mother often dares him not to play those games). You encourage him rather play outside exercises than gaze at TV and PC games. For instance teaching him to swim is the way help to develop his personality.
When his son joins in school team of sport, you don't miss any his match. Boy likes to compete in front of his relations, especially happy and self-confident as his father shouts for encouragement. In a sport competition, you should care of teaching him how to win, lose and enjoy happiness of playing favorite sport.
You don't be afraid of showing him know to toss the punch but at the same time let's make careful recommendations never be introductory an attack and avoid coming to blows and violence. Never tell him "Don't cry if you are a boy" but should ask for the reason why he cries.
Father has responsibility encourage the joy of studying of son. Every night you try to spend your time checking his homework but no leave this to your wife's discretion. Your son will see his studying is very important to both father and mother. Encourage him discover the new things and as he success you should claim up he has enough capacity to change any thing.
After he finishes a game, let's teach him to put everything he made in order. Let's lead him to clear private room and show him that being a man also clean the floor and scrub toilet everyday.
When you are free, tell him the stories in real to teach him believe that "who sows the wind will reap the whirlwind", that it's very waste of time to complain about one's lot and though it's difficult to forgive one's mistakes but more easy than carry a heavy spite in mind.
You should analyze a man to let he know who is kind of bad person and what he should do as rascal come close. Early to teach him how to phone to father, mother or where to find helps when he loses his way or be in danger. Slowly you teach your son the methods of view and know to doubt in self feeling.
Teach him to save money and you are not afraid to decline his requirement by answering "We must use this for things more needed" and if you cannot buy the best thing, you might buy the most valuable thing. If possible you make him a part-time work in his power, example delivering newspapers, to let him know the value of labor and of money. Since he is 15 years old, let's insist on training him on determining his goal, exchange views frequently with him on his dreams and of his friends, on the way to enter the university, and affirm to him step by step what is the most important thing in the life.
Never ignore the mistakes that he made just because you fear to do harm his mind. And never allow him jest adults but he must respect his teachers and the ones who are older than him. Teach him to look interlocutor straight in the eyes and also know how to direct the conversation interestedly as of their importance.
Don't hinder the relationship between your son and his girlfriend. Let's advise him the way to prove himself a cultured honest and steady young man. Let's talk seriously to him about sex, drug, wine and etc. You must get answers ready to his sudden thorny questions. Always require him come home on time as he's promised and phone to you if he's forced to be late.
Let's use every circumstance in practice to teach him that any behavior has consequences. You should accustom him to facing ugly things he made to let him know avoid repeating last faults, apologize and stand out stress calmly. Teach him fight to the last for right, even someone thinks he wrong.
Communicate clearly to him to know he himself decides his future, but so show that parent are always love and help him in any situations.
And before your son goes far away from home for his study, let's remind him to write regularly to his parent.
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