Improve relationship with children
 In his whole childhood, your child used to hang around you, sulk when you go away and throw him into your lap when you return. And you find it hard to accept the reality that at the moment your child wants to fly and prefer being near his friends more than parents.
You will be lost and even fall into a deep hole of perception between parents and children. The hereinafter measures can help you understand and create good relationship with children.
Fix the dinner only for family: It is not strange that nowadays dinner is becoming more important, it brings a lot of safe feeling for every family member as this tradition is quickly disappearing. Dinner is the time mostly expected, since only in this time everybody gathers fully around the table, together exchange jobs, study happening in the day…
This is also the time when good family traditions are retold, helping better guide the young generation. In addition, one research shows that the habit of grouping for dinner with family at least 3 times a week will reduce considerably the risk of smoking and drinking alcohol among the youth; increase the possibility of getting high marks.
Avoid always keep close but still be familiar: Teenagers enjoy playing with friends more than spending time around parents. That is normal; don’t consider that it is the signal for having completed your responsibilities for children. Find indirect ways to participate in children’s activities, such as taking part in parent’s association to catch up their study; invite their friends to your house to create in them the habit of sharing and a good behavior manner in the society in the future.
Share emotions together: Use your spare time available to coo your personal feelings with your child. This helps the child aware that although you are his parent, but are still normal human beings with all the moods of happiness, anger, loves and hate; through which you can create familiar feelings between two generations. Moreover, the child will more easily share the same feelings once they arise; rather than quietly solve by himself and then goes in the wrong direction.
Respect privateness: Don’t find ways to read diaries, listen to telephone, without permission, or question about things too personal. You can still talk together about must-have and need-to-have difficulties in growing age, but be polite. For example, “Recently I see that you are very thoughtful. Do you want to tell me?” In a short and informal walk, you can also “exploit” a lot of information you want to know.
Consult opinions: At growing age, a child usually has the feeling that he likes to conquer and be the leader. So, respect his thoughts, let him orient his favorite major study and suitable physical activities. However, remember there are still obligatory and nonnegotiable terms, particularly when related to the child’s health or safety.
Trust: Of course, at this worriedless age, your child will encounter mistakes in some decisions but you need to let him know you still trust him. Make him have a feeling that parents will be the ones he can lean on whenever he fails instead of shouting at him.
Love but have to be respected: You can play with child, be the horse for him to ride or play a mimic battle, yet need to point out the limit he cannot pass. Whenever he crosses it, you must seriously show that what he has done is not allowed, don’t let him acquire the temporization habit just because you love him too much. If you don’t straighten it from young age, when he grows up you will be much more “tired”.
Learn to accept changes: Don’t be too conservative, like “In my time things are not like that now”. Instead of that, you have to accept good aspects brought about by advancement, and if possible, why don’t you participate in learning new knowledge to catch up with your child; sympathize and share with him more easily?
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