Reduce "shock" for child when you are having the second one
Although children like to have babies, many children feel shock when the number one in their homes belongs to new members. Being a dutiful, very easy to do, your children suddenly become self-illed, hard-headed, naughty, disobedient.
Some children show their differences such as shouting in a quiet space, intentionally doing a wee-wee or void feces from bowels in utter confusing. All of the actions are apparently unconscious with a view to express a only hope of attracting others' attentions, forcing others' paying more special attention to them."
At the age of 3, children have an ability of making comments and rather good memories towards the careness from their parents. In the period that they have no babies, children always consider that they are the center of their families. They receive care, touching from other members of families. They are pleased to do such habits as touching the breasts, sucking the breasts..When they have babies, children no longer have those privileges so that they are easily flinged aside like an old boot. Many children become unusual. Even they often have funny behaviours such as biting others, being closed-mouthed, often fighting with their friends, waking up in a start when sleeping at night, shouting loudly "Need mother, not need babies"
In order to prevent the symptom of shocking psychic in children, when mothers are pregnant or prepare to be pregnant the second child, parents should talk to children about the images of their future babies. The necessary thing is that you have to suggest about family love, making concessions, taking care of all members of your families. Reading stories or telling stories also proper measures.
Training children the habit of sleeping in different beds or training children sleeping in their own rooms if you have conditions will be the best. When they do not get familiar yet, sometimes you can let your children sleep with their fathers or their grandparents with a view to make them gradually get familiar with apart from their mothers' warmth.
Dedication of mothers in their behaviours with children is very important. Mothers should know spend a short time taking care of each child. Although busy, you cannot forget the careness manners, caress manners, stroking manners, being comfort with older children. Behaving with all your children like that is to teach them the first lesson about humanity, and justice.
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