Reducing the aggressiveness of children from 1 to 2 years-old
Some parents confuse that when children express their aggressiveness in biting their friends, children should be suffered a same strike as an consequences of their actions. This way is totally useless and even harmful for your children.
Help children express their feeling by words
At this age, the amount of language is still limited. Sometimes it will make children difficult in expression for others to understand what they want. Therefore, children express in sulking by hands and legs, by their punches, pushes, or using their teeth to bite others. You should try to understand children's thoughts and express for what they want to say. For example, "Ah, you feel angry because you want to climb up the children's slide first." Or "You do not want to be snatched all the toys". This way will make children feel comfortable because they prove that you understand their feeling, and help them study, develop gradually their expressing feelings by words.
Do not give them a dose of their own medicine
Some of parents confuse that when your children are aggressive, you will bite them with a hope that your children will understand their consequences of actions with the same strikes. This method can make them confused to understand that it is a way of communication accepted and children are ready to behave like that in different cases. More terribly, this method will enhance powerless feelings and fear from your children. This leads to more increase of their aggressiveness.
If you feel too angry before their actions and bite them in their buttocks, you need to explain that you cannot control your feelings, your actions which are not good. And try to let them know that you love your children very much.
Give up your lectures or accusation of children
Shouting, accusing, telling children that they are so bad, being fierce. are ways that many parents do when they cannot control their anger. At this age, children cannot distinguish clearly that concept. You have to understand that their actions are not intentional. Only when your children see "the victims" crying for hurt, they just understand a part of the problems, and can cry out because of their fear.
Therefore, the best way is to let them be aware of gradually their actions and say "Father/Mother, I understand that I do not want to do this bad thing intentionally. When I push my friend's hair, they feel hurt and cry." Or "I have the rights to feel furious but striking is no. sometimes father/mother also feel angry with me but you do not strike me."
You do suggest that your children should apologize their friends who are hurt such as kisses in their cheeks. In case your children do not want to say apologies at once, whenever children are aggressive with you with just a small behaviour, you should repeat the same attitude. Gradually, your children will understand and learn their lessons of behaviours as you are expecting.
Help your children clear away their aggressiveness
Like the adults, children have the rights to get angry with someone. The important thing is that being angry changes into actions which will hurt others, which is not allowed. So how can you help your children clear away their aggressiveness which is boiling inside them? In order to clear away, children can shout loudly in their own rooms, in the corners of their gardens, or shouting at the trees. Children are also allowed to clear away by giving their punches into pillows or stampering onto grounds. If you look from outside, these actions can be considered to be negative. But the problem will change by the time. Several months later, when your children can control their language, everything will be different.
To make your children less inhibited, you should help your children deliver their energy by different activities such as playing, playing outsides, playing with their parents. The strong activities are mixed with weak activities.
Finally, never forget the time for their sleeping.
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