Say "no" sometimes to children
 Children can easily show their feelings, but you need to define for them the allowed restriction. That makes children feel safe when they know who's the one making decisions.
Mrs. Dorit Braun, Director of family consultant service Parentline, said: "What essential is letting your child know that you don't forgive any deeds. Teaching your child to learn how to behave can be very tough, but your efforts won't be a waste".
Say "no" when your child is in danger
Your child always wants to run, jump, climb, and explore, that is absolutely natural. But if he does dangerous things, stop him however joyful he is. You may need to raise your voice, or simply look straightly at his eyes and say no definitely.
For young a child who isn't aware of the meaning of "no", you need to take him away from the danger. A lot of parents have seen the benefits of teaching their children to say "oh" or "hot" when he is doing something in danger.
Say "no" when your child hurts someone
Children under 3 years old cannot place himself in others' positions, doesn't know that bite and kick can hurt other people, unless you explain to him. Simply because he feel less annoyed or embarrassed when doing so.
It's important that when you prevent him, pay attention to his anger. Hug tightly and you can tell him: "I know you are unhappy, but you must not hit/kick/bite your friend because that would make him hurt". You can suggest your child to kiss or saying sorry to his friend.
Never hurt back your child just to let him know what that feeling is - it only makes him understand what being allowed is.
Say "no" when your child is surly
As what we know, telling him what he is not allowed to do or to have often results in his anger. When you are tired, you're hard to keep control, but if you yield, you may possibly have to face with many outbursts of anger of him in later time. Hence, keep calm and wait for his anger to pass. When he allows you to fondle, prove to be sympathetic by such sayings: "I know you're sad", but simultaneously let him know that the answer is still "no".
Say "no" when he wants trivial things
Being a mother or father, you all like the feeling when giving children gifts. For that reason, it's hard to refuse them something, sometimes just a pack of sweets in the supermarket or a biscuit before lunch. "Partly we don't really want to refuse them, and they can realize it" - said Mrs. Dorit Braun. Therefore, to refuse effectively, you have to be actually firm. If you say "perhaps" or "later", your children will continue to importunate. If necessary, you can say: "let me think for a while", and then make decisions.
Say "no" when your child grabs a toy
He will take toys he likes, even if they are properties of other children. In this case, be determined and tell him to return the owner, and give him another thing. Distracting his attention can be a good trick, but you can explain that everyone has his special toys, and that we don't want to make your friends cry.
Saying "no" will be easier if you:
Agree with your husband or baby-sitter what is allowed and what is not.
Let him solve problems if they are still under control.
Describe words in a positive manner. Try to say: "Tidy up this place" rather than "don't mess any more"
Saying precisely and clearly instead of shouting - that only encourages children to shout back to mother.
Work toward coordination rather than obeying.
Never say: "maybe". Think carefully before deciding to say yes or no with him.
Don't wait until have exhausted all resources to say no, forestall all annoyance.
Behave correctly and always care and comfort him.
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