Teach child generosity
 For a 2-year-old child, generosity means sharing – it’s what he does not want to do most. His joy now is often based on toys and his property, not sharing toys to please others.
Psychologist Paul Coleman said “we consider toys as a little lead soldier or simply a doll, but with a child, they are all”
A child at walking age (from one to three years old) can learn to share since very small, that merely means that he will let friends touch a precious thing, and he still holds tight in hand, not give others. Though he does not give toys, but you still have to appraise him and appreciate when he pleasingly show his toys to friends.
What can you do?
Show generosity: Teaching him by being a mirror for him to follow is the most effective method. During lunch, tell him “Do you want bite one piece of my cake? Let me divide one for you”
Sharing one cheerful activity also impresses: “I am going to water the garden, come here to fit the pipes with me”. Use many times the word “share”, no sooner she will grasp the meaning of it.
Speak about wants and needs of others: Help the child to fall in line with the society to let him see a bigger world. When your child wants a chocolate box in the grocery, you can answer “Alright, it is the thing you like. Now, what do you think I like? What will we bring home to treat us?”
Praise him frequently: Whenever your child shares, tell him how it makes you glad: “you are very great when you let me play with your new truck with you” or “I am very pleased when you let your little sister play with the doll. She is also very happy”. She will be proud to have made you satisfied and the generous behavior manner will come to her more naturally.
Put aside some toys: Sharing everything is not easy, you don’t want your neighbor to drive your new car, neither. Your child can learn to share more quickly if she knows some things she loves are for her only. If her friends come and exceptionally like the new bear, prepare for her to hide it. You ought to tell her that she does not have to share that bear because it is special, but you need to explain that all other toys are for both of them to play.
Avoid punishing her: Do not punish her for not sharing toys because toys property is absolutely normal for a two-year-old child. You only need to tenderly make her know that it depresses you: “It is very bad when you don’t let other friends to play with your new truck. Next time, share it with your friends” Be careful not to argue about his behavior manner.
Let your child learn from friends: Letting his friend to be the mirror is the best way for him to learn sharing. Try not to be involved in all fights for toys. In the end, he will learn how to fix when realizes that the selfish behavior will drive away other friends.
Search the reasons behind his selfishness: If sharing is still a hard thing for your child, list out other problems in his life. Have your family just moved to a new place? Has she started to go to kindergarten or has his pet just died? Sometimes, he will react to changes by holding strictly his favorite properties. In this case, he holds something because he needs a safer skin. Don’t lose. Let him have time to settle and save the sharing lesson.
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