What kind of mother are you?
You think that you are a good mother? Look at yourself again seriously, since many children’s weaknesses are due to mistakes in your education method. What mother type do you belong in the following kinds:
A peremptory mother
 The child does not have his own private life and only wishes to please his mother. Meanwhile, the mother is usually not satisfied with the child’s achievements; criticize him for all sorts of reasons. From three years old, children of mothers of this type have to learn foreign languages, music, dancing…When walking in the street, the mother would hold the child’s hand, control his every action. The child does not have time for playing, running, and have no one to communicate. The mother would “devote” her entire life for the child and usually does not intent to entrust her kid to a baby-sitter. If the child is naughty, she would be very ashamed. Her favorite words are “you must not” and “you need to”.
When growing up, the child will be dependent on his mother. He will surely become a fame-seeking, knowledgeable but unconfident, shy and infantile person. The boys will depend on femininity. A grown up woman still continues to follow her mother’s advice in every matter, even in her not always smooth private life.
A perfect mother
The mother of this type seeks balance in everything. Learning hours with the child are conducted according to mother’s ideas or the child’s request. If the child shows independence, and tells his mom “I will do it myself” then the mother would patiently accept his failures, at the same time correct and explain reasons for him.
A perfect mother loves her child as what he has, and always avoids extremes in education. When playing ball with the child, she will definitely ask what color he likes; when doing shopping in the supermarket she will consult her child’s ideas. The word “must not” will be replaced by another word. For instance, when the child tries to step on a deep water pool, the mother would explain; at that time, the walk will come to an end. To compensate, she will allow her kid to choose small and harmless water pools.
Children of perfect mothers will become keen on learning when they are grown up, willing to solve their own problems, try to help weaker people and everyone in the family. Their emotions will harmonize with reasons. They will be practical, smart, always deal with negative actions of surrounding people understandably, and dislike conflicts. They will feel very confident in any living environments; always respect mother’s opinions but not idealize them.
An imperfect mother
Loving her kid, accepts him as what he has, however, this type of mother’s behavior manner is very disordered and systematic. The child’s development is floated freely: the mother herself let drift and make condition for the child to develop like a “wolf-human”. The mother can adore the child, sing to him every night, take a loving care of him and require nothing from him.
Such behaviors are only beneficial for the child in the beginning years of life. The freedom that she creates or the excessive flattering and rearing according to demand will shape in the child an interesting but troublesome personality. The mother’s faulty nature is in that: she passively waits for her son to exhibit initiative. She is unable to form a good education and caring style.
Children of mother of this type are often mentally undeveloped but not because they are doltish. The child only wants to do things he really likes. When become an adult, he will have personalism, be romantic or shameless and feels very lonely. If he finds creativeness for himself, he could get great achievement.
A miserable mother
Always regarding daily work tough and endless, the mother of this type does not have time to take care of herself, husband and the family’s economy. The child is often looked after by older brother or sister. The mother cannot satisfactorily arrange her life. Monetary difficulty makes her mournful and lazy. That is often the mother with many children and cannot afford to look after the family.
It is not hard to predict that children of this mother will be hard to mentally develop. They often cry, they want by somehow attract the attention of surrounding people. Normally this kind of children hardly reaches high level of education. The most difficult thing with them is to overcome usual circumstances. Their whole lives are built on the basis of obedience.
A perfection-seeker mother
Having a well-organized family, the child has everything he wants. However, he is lonely and spends most of the time playing alone. Between mother and the child lacks mutual understanding. Mother rarely holds child in her arms, fondles and listens to his problems. This kind of mother often has position in the society and can afford to hire a baby-sitter. She is not used to the role of a housewife, often get angry before the sniveling and naughty of the child, easily pour accumulated exhaust in the day on the child.
Although he has a lot of toys, the child develops to a normal person. When was small, he is over-indulged. Growing up a little bit, he may be lost in reading books. If provided fully with finance, he can be easily fallen and spiritually invaded by drug and sex. The mother tries very hard, be patient, and spends a lot of money with a view to have her son have a good position in the society. However, the cold and unfamiliar feeling between mother and child is hard to be overcome.
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