Are you the one that listens to your life partner?
The test below is a minor suggestion whether you and your life partner really listen and understand each other. Listening is not just nod without any true understanding.
First, you and your wife/husband together answer the reserved questions without "seeing" the other's answers. Then, you both compare and classify the answers according to the following order: Coincident, Similar, and Contrary. After that, multiply the coincident answers to 5, the similar answers to 3 and the
contrary ones to 0 (including questions without answers) and then plus them all before you two read the answer key.
Section intended for you
What made you angry the most last week?
When you were a child, did you have any pets? What was it?
What happened in your dreams last night?
What film touched you the most during last weeks and months? Why?
What is your best friend's birthday?
Do you believe in the afterlife?
What is your partner's habit that makes you annoyed the most?
How can your partner always make you feel happy?
What books are you reading or already read?
Do you think your partner is the one that listens to you?
Does your partner treat you well? Alternatively, does he/she know how to solve your problems peacefully?
Do you have any idols? If yes, write it down.
What country do you want to visit the most?
What is your determination in a new year and what determination you carried out last year?
Do you have your own rules? Write down three most important rules.
Section intended for your partner
What made your partner angry the most last week?
When being a child, did your partner have any pets? What was it?
What happened in your partner's dreams last night?
What film touched your partner the most during last weeks and months? Why?
What is the birthday of your partner's best friend?
Does your partner believe in the afterlife?
What is your habit that makes your partner annoyed the most?
How can you always make your partner feel happy?
What book is your partner reading or already read?
Do you think your partner is the one that listens to you?
Do you treat your partner well? Or do you know how to solve your partner's problems peacefully?
Does your partner have any idols? If yes, write it down.
What country does your partner want to visit the most?
What is your partner's determination in a new year and what determination your partner carried out last year?
Does your partner have his/her own rules? Write down three most important rules.
Scores
75-65 points : You and your partner are sharing a great relationship. This score shows that you both not only can talk to each other but also "always listens, always understands" what the other confides to. Understanding is the most stable foundation for a long-lasting relation.
65-45 points : Sometimes you and your partner have "silly" minutes but you both know how to talk and listen to each other. If you two satisfy with the present situation, you do not need to change. If not, try to make some minor changes and you will find out a way to improve the situation.
Less than 45 points : You are having great trouble in the present relation because both of you seem not to have enough time for each other, thus finding common voice is very equivocal. Quickly consult a specialist if you do not want to keep living in the "same bed but different dreams" status.
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