Bringing down conflicts in family

While arguing, wife usually "gives up" all make her husband loosing calm and bad ending will happen. If both listen to understand their different thought the conflicts can be solved.

In many situations, wife is angry because her husband persistently receive win to him. Instead of criticizing husband's attitude, she criticizes him. It will make husband feel ashamed due to being disregarded. He becomes powerless and wants to resist against. If husband always bear his wife's revilement sooner or later that family also break. So wife need to change her reaction harmoniously.

Arguments can spoil your marriage but silent bearing is much more dangerous. Especially, "muzzling" is the last self defense action. Person "muzzle" the other only want to keep silence, withdraw out of conservation. In 85% marriage, psychologist research husband is the person stop his wife's criticizing. The habit of "muzzling" will destroy marriage relation because it looses ability of conciliation conflict problems.

Husband should know when his wife grumble against him means she prove her love to him, she want her husband more perfectly. You should try to control because wife's angriness does not mean attack to you.

Wife's emotion is only simple to relieve tense state. Never finishing the negotiation by soon giving solution. To women, her husband understands her emotion more important than his agreement. When wife find her point of view is required her fret immediately appears.

When boiling with anger, husband always shower blows is taboo. Its action represents rude, brutal, uncultured in marital relation which his wife is not easy to forgive after mediation. So, even though whatever getting angry, first thing husband need to remember: controlling themselves, never beating his wife even light slap.

To wife, she often exaggerates while complaining. Instead of unpleasant words, she should straightly shows things she does not satisfy with him, analyze clearly reason of creating annoyance, should not jump from one story to another makes her husband get more angry. To men, loosing honor is loosing all.

Talkative is one of women's bad habits. When problems are solved, you should not be "garrulous, verbose" create inhibit for men. It is not useful.

Both should give their half a chance to show their thoughts, opinion. Do not bring the passed things or related to negotiating problems. So it looks like "adding fuel to the blames". Trying calmly, if there is tense symbol let them pass then continuing to negotiate.

Focusing on main content. Directing to general solution. Ready to take mistakes if you feel you are wrong. Tenseness is not good, remembering "the last straw breaks the camel's back" avoiding argument over limit.