Opinion about marriage: right and wrong

You think, are marriage turning step marking maturity and will it be sweet fruits of love tree which you take after? Whether are your thought from past to now about this problem is right?

1. The married age is the best surveying ruler that forecast the success's level of marriage.

Right: maturity both is the most ideal and both can stand on their own feet before stepping married life. Ability of standing on their own feet and maturity often increase correlative to age and life's experience.

2. Love is all you need for happy marriage.

Wrong: while marrying most of couple said "we love each other". However, 1/3 in them stops conjugal life by divorce, it often happens in the first years of conjugal life.

3. Ability of divorce is forecasted by "quality" of relation before marrying (period of learning each other).

Right: many researches' show seriously that the relation's quality in the period of learning each other is wonderful ruler for forecasting a marriage's stableness and success.

4. Couples are going to marry, often focus preparation for wedding party more than your real conjugal life.

Right: getting married and maintaining family life are different affairs. Couples usually spend much time and money preparing for wedding party which only take place one day instead of using time and power to learn the basic motive of conjugal life as well as necessary skills to fulfill their husband(wife) 's role.

5. Marriage may create disappointment and make us discouraged in the first period.

Right: marriage is the difficult transition period more than we guess. It also happens to the couples have careful preparing process and have good relation in the pre married period. The newly married period (about 2 first years) is the difficult transition period and we feel conjugal life is not advantageous, sometime being stress.

6. Getting married is the good way to prove your independence, not depend on your parents.

Wrong: youth often tend to make effort by themselves to succeed. However, becoming: independence" means we have ability to take charge of work, do not depend on life partner.

7. Cohabit will help us having a more satisfied marriage.

Wrong: in theory, cohabiting before getting married is similar to "training course" in order to improve a later formal marriage, but practice show the contrary. The level of divorce increase clearly for couples lived each other before marrying.

8. The financial problem is the most common cause creates conflicts in family and make harmful to married relation.

Right: the investigation show that 37% couples believe money is the number one problem creating conflicts in family life.

9. Skills maintain good relation naturally, can not study.

Wrong: we can study necessary skills which help to build good married relation. Collecting general knowledge about building and maintaining relation in society, family and marriage. will support us to have more effective choice as well as developing relations. Preparing in the pre married period can help us developing your skills and building good beginning for your conjugal life.

10. Most of people, who are divorced, do not get married again.