Slow ejaculation
 Many men though having skillful stimulation techniques and full of pleasure in sharing bed, sometimes are unable to ejaculate. Sex psychologists searched the reason causing this trouble and suggested the cure.
What are hard-ejaculation and retarded ejaculation?
According to psychologists, this “hard-to-control” symptom is called ejaculation incompetence. Once stuck in this situation, the man can still be absolutely sexual and highly enthusiastic but he seems not to reach the “peak”. Retarded ejaculation trouble can be a really miserable state, the man may feel embarrassed, isolated, and frustrated.
The love partner, sometimes does notunderstand, feels not enough and hence sulks, claims and this increases the pressure, the man feels uneasy and that forms the retarded habit in later times.
Some people have to suffer this situation in their whole life, in all times of making love. Others have no problem in self-ejaculating (masturbation), but the penis is only hard without making sperm in order to yield the absolutely wonderful feeling. Others more only meet troubles at times when the love-making is interrupted.
Retrograde ejaculation
Some men have the trouble of retrograde ejaculation, totally different with retarded ejaculation. If there’s any time you still experience the orgasmic minutes, but don’t observe the appearance of that “troop”, it’s the time you have retrograde ejaculation trouble.
Instead of ejaculating to the outside, the “troop” is pushed back to the vesica. People having this trouble sometimes realize their urine opaque after the ecstasy of happiness.
Reasons
If you suffer the “slow” trouble at times, the main reason can be physical strength; check your health to see if you have such diseases as:
- Diabetes
- Diseases in prostate
- Hurt in the nerve
- Drinking too much alcohol
- Use of some medicines such as block beta, or anti-depression.
Change your habits
If you have the masturbation habit – always the same type, intensity, and frequency all the time like a machine, your body will not know how to correspond flexibly and differently when you really have passion for a new counterpart.
Try to widen, modify your list. Your body will have more emotion when contacting with stronger intensity, more interesting rhythm of real act, real people.
Psycho-physiological inhibition
The most popular cause of late ejaculation is psycho-physiological inhibition. Psychological reasons can be:
- You are a perfectionist. Sex is a show and you have to find ways to make your partner perfectly ecstatic, and at that time sex becomes a duty not a game any more.
- You are afraid of not controlling yourself. This may be a character in your life style, not just in sex.
- You are afraid you are a not good partner. You can not enjoy all the body pleasure if you are always nervous about the strength and the ability to satisfy your counterpart.
- Deep in your mind, you consider sex not a right thing. Shy, reluctance in sex life due to information you are educated from young age or hurt of sex before can be obstacles to your inspiration.
- You are unrealizable. Absorbed in the bodily feeling of the love – sunk in fantastic dreams – can make you lose the truest wonderful feeling.
- You are confused. Too busy with work or other missions means your mind does notcare for that when performing your duty.
- You are not happy. If you are mad or not feeling safe with your partner, perhaps you have to try your best to have a relaxed and enjoyable feeling. Try to reject the stress before going to bed. Help yourself to practice.
Do things that make you really relaxed, exercise breathing or buy relaxed tapes or CDs.
- Enjoy the first emotion, choose a focused time to feel the most ecstatic moment.
- Avoid negative thoughts or loss of concentration when making love.
- Try to make diversifications in the starting scene.
- Improve the vulva muscle – the weapon to “dispatch troop” of the he-man.
Other assistances
If all of the above points have tolled a bell for you, you can talk heart-to-heart with your partner to have assistance or both of you go to a doctor to consult more opinions; otherwise, books can help you to have more happiness.
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