AVOIDING 8 REASONS WHEN MARRYING
 In order not to regret your marriage, before officially marrying someone, you should reconsider to guarantee that you marry him/her for the valid reasons.
Do not rush to marry someone because of following reasons:
A girl seems so sweet : Finding a beautiful, well-educated and sympathetic girl is rather difficult. Therefore, most of men often hurry when they are acquainted with a girl who seems to be sweet and perfect. Be careful and make sure that her sweetness is just reserved for you, not for anyone else.
A lover of student days : Romantic loves began when you studied at high school, sometimes at university. These loves are worth respecting. However, a happy marriage is not related to the time when the couple gets acquainted with each other. It is simple when they are closer and understand their jokes more, the woman usually seems to be wiser than the man of her age, so her treating the man as a boy is not strange. This will make the marriage lack respect. (The majority is true but not always)
All of your friends get married : To be lonely among friends who are married and have children makes you sad, but everything has two sides. Do not you recognize that men getting married usually complain his past loneliness but freedom? Or the girls now dress shabbily and wear their hair untidy just because they are busy taking care of their husband and children?
Your parents like her : Simply, the remainder of your life will have a strong attachment to her while your parents only voice their opinions. Therefore, listen to your own emotions.
"It's time ": The majority of men think that following education, job and property for future family, marriage is a part of a picture. Like the idea above, listen to your own emotions.
You are in debt to him/ her : This opinion at first seems to be reasonable, but now answer these questions: Is that debt money or valuable advice? What is that person's real thought about you? Do you really love him/her or just feel pity for him/her? And finally, what is your real feeling after ignoring the debt?
She wants you to be better : This reason seems to be good and reasonable as many people say: "Let him marry and his wife makes him better." But again ask yourself whether you need to change. If you do not want to change, people's efforts are useless in spite of your closest people, and this leads to tolerate each other.
You are asked to do so because she is pregnant : You are confused, but you are the main factor. Remember the child is innocent and do not put pressure on him/her or fall out for his/her sake in the future. In this situation, the solution is up to everyone, but it is better to use contraceptives when having sex.
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