Eight spices for a long-lasting relation
 How to maintain a good and long-lasting relation?
This has always been a puzzling question. However, if you try to pay more attention to everything, you will find it is not that difficult.
Below are spices for a long-lasting relation:
Enthusiasm : Whether the "vitality" of a good relationship is ensured depends firstly and mostly on the enthusiasm. A relationship is hard to maintain if one of two people appears to have less vitality or enthusiasm when helping each other. All things that can be described about this case are boredom and tiredness or bearing.
Attractiveness/ Personal style
You do not have to be so nice or so stylish like models, but you must make yourself attractive, in other words, you must have your specific style if you want your partners admire you.
Do not be too easy-going to take care of the moustache or the shirt wearing for 1 week long, for example. Although "clothes cannot make a monk," they are the most efficient means of introduction yourself, not to mention your gestures, manners, and words. Do not be so fussy, and do not so easy-going too. Be harmonious. That is the best way for you to attract partners.
Communication skills : A successful relation also needs to be built on a good foundation via listening and expressing ideas. Goodness, badness, difference or similarity and care need to be discussed openly, and mutually. Only when you feel that you can discuss frankly everything with your partners, will your relation really be "healthy."
Sincerity : In order to have good communicative skills, you are to be sincere. If not, surely there will be no matters worth discussing.
Love: The thing that creates differences between a successful business relation and a friend relation or love is affection. As to a business relation, you do not have to express your sentiment if you want to succeed; but to a relation with friends, lovers, a tender affection is very essential. In those relations, each individual is to care and concern others physically and spiritually. You are to put the benefits of your friends and your life partner on a higher position than that of yours.
Harmony: You should not be a shadow of your companion or life partner. You both may have lots of different ideas and concepts, but finally you need harmony to get the conclusion.
Awareness ability: In order to be harmonious, your awareness about certain matter should be fairly close to that of your companion or partner. It would be hard to find common voice if one indulge in the "cheap" novels or neglects to update knowledge while the other is enthusiastic in learning and inquiring the true values of art and mankind's knowledge.
Acceptance: Acceptance does not mean following and obeying. Everyone can accept the one that has the same idea with him or her. Only the true beloved relation could help you accept those that have the contradictory ideas with yours. Acceptance in this case requires honor and care about each other. Undoubtedly, you and your lover or friends cannot always have the same ideas. Nevertheless, via the care and concession, you can still accept several different ideas, or find out a way to harmonize them.
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