Why do we tell lies?
Everyone tells lie, and does frequently. This really has problems. So why? That's the way of protecting our selves and trying to be good in our eyes, in others' eyes, specialists declared.
"It's in our self-respect", psychologist Robert Feldman at Massachusetts University , America , said. "When you feel yourself be threatened, you will lie at high level immediately".
All lies are not dangerous. Practically, telling lies sometimes is the best way to defend your privacy, yourself, others from bad. Some tricks hide behind tactics and delicacy is considered to be unserious. But impudent lies (include concealing or forging the truth) are dangerous, because they corrode the fact and friendliness, the colloid of society.
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Some animals also deceive or dupe their opponents deliberately, but only man is able to deceive himself and others. Some people are so obsessed of how others value him that he can't distinguish between the truth and the imagination.
In an experiment, for example, Feldman let two strangers enter the same room. They were recorded images during their talk. Then, each one watched the record again and showed what they had said were not completely correct.
Instead of telling what a lie is, and avoid mentioning the phrase"telling lies", Feldman just asked the participators to find what they had said were not entirely right.
At first both of them thought they were completely honest. But after watching the record, they amazingly realized that some they had spoken weren't right. Lies revolve around the fact that they pretend to like men whom they really dislike, or reckon themselves to be stars of a band.
The experiment found that about 60% people lied at least once in a 10 minute talk and consisted of 2,92 untrue facts.
"Most people tell untruths automatically", Feldman said. "They don't think it's a part in their common social communication. But that is true".
"We don't try beyond to make an impression on others and maintain a view of ourselves to suit the way people want us to be", Feldman told. We want to be accepted to make social situations happen more smoothly and easily, to avoid offending others through divergence or disagreement.
Men also tell lies as women do, but they usually do that to make them better in others' eyes whereas women do to make others feel at ease. Extroverts tell lies more times than introverts.
Self-respect and threatened self are motives which cause us to be willing to lie to a colleague, rather than to a stranger. Jennifer Argo at Alberta University , America , told "We all want to be fine as other people appear (especially the ones whom we like) and protect our own value", Argo said.
Consumers tell lies to protect their image before the public. She also surprisingly know everyone is ready to lie to an acquainted person just for small differences.
"I think everyone only considers temporary advantages when they decide to deceive others to defend their own image and value in the present, but then if the dupe finds the truth, maybe there will be a long consequence".
Feldman advises us to obviously know the restriction of lies. It's fact that honesty always creates a real relationship and a great trust.
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