Advices for young mothers
 At the first time of being a mother, beside endless happiness, you will cope with new challenges. This can make you feel "you can't". The most important thing you should remember is: you are not alone.
What must to do?
One of the most important things you can do is getting and finding helps from family and friends. Another important thing is that: feel comfortable and don't be too nervous or tense because of lacking a mother's experience. When giving a birth, it's likely that time for finishing daily housework like cooking, washing, or even phoning.will double.
Therefore, helps are very precious at this time. During some early weeks, you can get help from following sources:
Your partner: because giving suck to a baby is "sole right" of the mother, the father can do other works for help. Consider this as time for a new family, the couple together organize and divide responsibilities properly. If for some reasons your "a-half" is not at home to help you, find a close and reliable friend to help you in beginning days.
Relations and friends: A lot of relations and friends will come to see you when you have just given a birth. This will make you happy. However, this is the time when you haven't yet overcome absolutely. Therefore, you are still tired and sometimes feel "overloaded". But you also try to finish the task of a hospitable hostess. This is the time you need helps from them. You can give a polite refusal, for example: "We are very glad because you come to see us. But it's time for the baby to sleep, so see you next time". No-one can tax you because they understand that it's time you need to relax. It's considered as their useful helps.
Midwife or home nurses: Midwife will care for you in early 10 days. After that, the midwife will be replaced by a nurse who will care for you during next specific time.
Could you sleep well?
When having a baby, it's very difficult for you to sleep well because your baby can wake up anytime, even at mid-night. This can make your biological clock in your body wrong. When lacking sleeps, you are easy to angry and sometimes you don't have patience to solve daily issues. How to solve this problem? You can follow some ways such as:
Share giving suck to the baby at night with your husband: You can wonder how because giving suck to the baby is "sole right" of a mother. It's not easy but not impossible. You can squeeze your milk in a bottle before sleeping and ask your husband to bottle-feed the baby when he/she wakes up. If not, you can ask him to lull the baby to sleep if the baby wakes up but not require suckling. With this solution, you can sleep enough and your health is ensured in order to bring up the baby better.
Relax: Relax before you go to bed. The best method is taking a bath with warm water. Drinking a cup of warm water is also a useful way. You can learn some relaxing skills for young women from some books of women's organizations. Go to bed when your baby sleeps: It's usually easier to say than doing because you may have to see your friends or relations or do housework at that time.
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